i want my boyfriend to get rid of his dogi want my boyfriend to get rid of his dog

Mind you my husband NEVER helps me with the dog. Sure, I will go through some ups and downs of separation and divorce, as the marriage didnt make it, but in the end, I am sure without such negativity I will be much happier on a day-to-day basis. He can be bad, and I know that, but I dont know what to do anymore. It actually is 11 years old but has the energy of a 3 year old. Much like a child that begged for a dog and the dog then became the mothers problem. A steak. This is a man that Anya had never witnessed first hand beating me as I always left her outside when we would get in a scuffle yet she would not yield. All rights reserved. She had a seizure and yelped and again wouldnt let me pick her up and I was about to give up and take her to the pound. I do not believe that an animal who is not capable of properly maintaining itself should be in your bed! Even to the point that while pregnant I was down on my hands and knees cleaning the bathroom floor where he and his son pee in the floor. Happier than weve ever been with our crazy dog! I have wondered if Im going to keep the relationship. I cant stand it! I dont mind dogs but dog is a dog not a baby and i expect them to behave as such that was agreed initially. I feel like we cant plan our future together as long as the dog does not change his behaviour ! I always knew the high likelihood of out living my pets and it was always hard for me to say goodbye. In fact, if the dog bitten kids or your guest more than once, the situation might be a little bit difficult to handle unless you made enormous of word of honors to correct this behavior. i said uhmmmnooo.extreme much? Her dog could go next door and like you said, be fed a steak, and stay over there forgetting who she is. I dont know when this started, but she has also started peeing in the bed. She adopted a dog (3 years old) after two years and we were both excited (Keep in mind, I didnt really have any say in getting the dog or not. I love my dogbut she is a dog. I really dont like all the shedding and constant licking but I compromised (foot of the bed at least, dog bed on floor at best) and I also wear earplugs. They have passed away 2 yrs ago my mom and not quite 1 yr ago my dad. I found him tripping and cant see where dog is helping him at all. So he did. Now we are in love and he wants me to dump dogs at a shelter and move away with him. He even send me a text telling me I threaten him with the dog and he threw the ring in the trash. Our kids have moved out now that they are older so since the bedrooms upstairs are free, my wife has turned one of them into the dogs bathroom. The dog of course begins peeing everywhere. She was so cute and sweet, and my boyfriend was really happy to have her. How could he if hes never met her? He is getting better, but generally, this is the order: dogs, me, kids. Although many people love dogs, not everyone does. I am a fairly good dog trainer, (my own opinion) but puppies need time to grow, to explore, and to get into things, that they shouldnt, in order to learn. I totally agree with you! I knew she had them, and I honestly didnt think it would be a problem. Our cat is still yowling at me because of what the dog did. Loving and loyal. I still get to see him occasionally & even get to keep him when they go on vacation. He will not read about it or acknowledge it. I like his presence there with me so it works. Everything about her dog does nothing short of threaten to blow my fuse. I actually think its very gross to have dogs in the bed, there was even black stuff on the pillow from the dog laying on the pillow, and even drips of pee and they never get showered or anything. In any case, Im not saying either of you is right/wrong, but just trying to shed some light! Especially when cats do their own thing and its not like theyre around bugging you all day like the needy dog. I need rest because I have to work a 12 hour shift the next day. When she says I murdered it shes not being facetious; she literally believes, and has said repeatedly, that putting that dog down was dog murder despite the vet thought it was long past time. I have always been an animal lover and had several pets growing up. I have never allowed her on the bed Id read something about alpha dogs and I was trying to impress my alpha on her.that night I put her on a blanket on the side of me in the bed.I realized that I was afraid to care about anyone or anything againand that I had not taking anything into account about her behavior and needed to research how to care and train her. Since then, wife had brought a greyhound who is miserable to have around and barks at every little noise, including action on the TV during the hockey game, so much so that I crate him when Im watching sports. I am the one who has to primarily take care of her because he works a lot, and she will NOT listen to me at all. I must also add that over the past 6 months I have grown very much attached to his cat. This is the 5th time its happened and I dont want to live with this dog anymore. I told him that he either needs to take her and come up with the deposit for the condo, pay me for all my efforts of cleaning her mud and poop like doggy day care, or stop by every morning and take her to doggy daycare on his way to work. Its been a battle since that day 4 years ago. Not him. I actually love and enjoy animals, but These are reasons dogs arent allowed on furniture, especially the bed where you lay your head. for 4 years. If anything dog people are the controlling ones. She also sniffs constantly. Since I wrote my post on here I broke up with my GF. Tell him that you agree with his decision and ask for another chance. Here, I would set her up, with all sorts of examples and bingo, it works, but while training this, I dont harp on the other stuff, just a little reminder. Well I cant use yelling as a tool for behavior changes because it doesnt work long term and it is not in my nature to respond like that. He of course used to let her sleep in his bed like a person and she stinks like nothing Ive ever smelled. If you can spot out the exact cause with the help of a vet, the remedy process will be much easier. Thats ridiculous. The dogs will probably always come first. My girlfriend, not the dog. Take care. Youve blown it with me. Being around him is never fun. Later, when you are both ready and in agreement, you could develop a plan (with clear conditions) to re-introduce the dogs. I dont mind a quick sniff when someone walks in but she goes on non stop getting full hair on you. I am sad to say that these differences are ending my marriage but at the same time, I will be glad to say good riddance to someone who is so shallow that they let dog hair on the couch upset them. Why would you do that? I would rather see the dog go to another home. She is not a bad dog, is very obedient, but my life is nothing but white dog hair right now. He said his reason is is that he doesnt make a big production out of it. Dogs shouldnt be on a human bed anyways, they need to have their own. Ive been married 16 years. This thread has helped me cope with my situation soooo much. I love my doggy so much i treat him like a baby and my husband now is giving me an ultimatum between him n my doggy.its been 1 year since we r married. Sounds like your partner is a narcissist, please join a narcissist support group on Facebook and check it for yourself. Give them there own bed!!! Luckily, for the past months has hasnt mentioned too much about them and things are going better between us thankfully. And I was itchy and got rashes while she was on the bed. We got the first dog 7 years ago. Okay since then my 3 kids and I have moved twice and recently moved into a home and my boyfriend of 6 months has moved in with us. Its frustrating because anything we plan revolves around her dog and if we can leave him at her parents. STOP being so self involved and worrying about your own feelings. Ive been with my boyfriend for two years we currently live in a house with 6 animals 3 cats, a dog, and two rats. I want both of my boys happy and it breaks my heart to see them hate each other. So sorry youre going through this like you said, its not the dogs fault, its the HUMANS fault! My boyfriend hates my dog and wont let him at his apartment, but insists I stay there. Im just sick and tired of this dog being higher on the totem pole than me and our kids. I feel that the dog is a real liability so I have been able to find a no-kill shelter that agreed to take him. I am fine until he lets her inside, sure she sleeps on the floor on a matt by the door but I cant take it anymore, I dont know what to do! Gosh I fear that youre right :-( It does seem like my story is basically an echo of all the other stories. !! He does not take the dog for a walk, a bath the dog, or even have time to play with the dog. Just changed some psychology in my way of thinking and its not that important. I dont have children and they have filled that void in my life. I have a lab, who has had obedience training. Right after bringing her home, our youngest cat saw her and freaked out, terrified. He wasnt over the moon about my dog but he grew to tolerate and even help out if I would be home late from work or out for the day. I dont get to sleep with my boyfriend and I rarely get to cuddle him or get any love or attention from him because all he ever does is cuddle or hug or kisses the dog. I cant imagine letting an animal destroy my home. Because when he finally gets in bed with me..I get good night I love you and not even cuddle me for 2 minutes and roll over and sleep. Putting her in the kennel with a very dark blanket covering the kennel so she cant see as well as putting a radio on beside her has seemed to help. (Saliva most likely). Depending on the dog, they dont live that long (smaller dogs live longer). Honestly, you do sound like one of those over-involved pet owners! I truly love this girl but Im on my way out! I truly in all my heart believe that people who choose animal relationships over human ones need therapy. But not go above the line. The dog needs to be in its position. Ive always had animals growing up, all indoor BC we couldnt bear to see harm come to any of them. Janet, Chihuahuas love warm! I dont have children and they have filled that void in my life brings forth the pivot in the issue of dogs/cats with respect to relationships between the animal and the pet owner. So to get to my story, I moved in with my Gf about 4 years ago. You are human, a different species. Did I leave my husband for a dog that he chose? If I even walk into his apartment, Ive got hair on my clothes. I wish your sorrow is short term and much happiness you find a woman makes you a happy man. Your fighting in front of dogs is not bad parenting because you are not parents to the dogs; you are owners of them. Sometimes.its not the pet. It upsets me greatly, we also have a 4 yr old son which the dog has bit on a couple occasions simply because the dog does not like him. Family dogs always seem more well adjusted and a lot less anxious or needy. I asked dont you care about my feelings & apparently in this issue he doesnt. My boyfriend has a 5 year old Great Dane and will never own another breed. You can still love the crap out of your dogs and maintain a respectful dog owner relationship. He has absolutely no discipline. Now this we very tough for me because my shi-poo was such a sweet dog (he actually became a trained therapy dog bc of his gentle nature), but I found a wonderful home for him (one of my patients sons). he once told me oh no oh my you dont know dogs at all. A person chuckles when they first see him. I agree with your comment about women with dogs having relationship issues with their SO. I moved to the US to be with my husband, so I left everything and everybody behind to be with him. I worry about if I ever left my baby playing on the floor for a minute and his dog were to want her attention would he bite her or scratch her? If I argue with him that he needs to take care of these dogs he will just promise to help and will help out for one day then quit. When he comes home he immediately starts playing & stroking the dogs showing his love. i really dont know what to do. My ex-boyfriend, now I think started expected people especially me to act like dogs in the way of unconditional love and no questions asked when my boyfriend wouldact up. First, he wouldnt accept half the things he does but he gets greeted by his dog regardless. If anyone has been in a similar situation Id be grateful for any advice you can offer. YES! As long as you can strike a fair balance that ensures your pets needs are met, consider giving your partner a pass on nightly pet duties. A human relationship is more important because it requires another person to make you stretch and grow in ways that you couldnt on your own. Hi Elena! I realize this is mental abuse, but hes very good at it, and, theres really nothing I can do, even though its all just to control me. Two years ago my oldest and closest to my heart died, and I was devastated and said I was done with dogs. My boyfriend lets the dog basically inhale my face when I walk in the door and it totally ruins my mood, especially since he knows how much I hate it. She never relieved herself in the house. Petsitting misbehaving dogs who may miss their humans is not the wisest plan of action either. Should i be concerned about this? Did you to ever think that your partners ha no idea how inappropriate you were being as dog owners before they actually moved in and lived it everyday? The article is right, you DONT HAVE TO LOVE THE PET AS MUCH AS YOUR PARTNER. Then she lays with him in the bed and he cuddles With her and not me. Im in an interesting situation where my dog hates my boyfriend. I fear my the dog will be the death of us.. :( I heard all what you have been hearing from your partner.. it takes work and responsibility to have pets.. 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